"I think we would all love to have a well rounded tree full of all of these different fruits but I find that not to always be the case for myself....how about you?"
No, not me either. But think about it. Fruit trees go seasons without producing much fruit too. God lets us go through dry seasons sometimes. I think it's during those times we often realize, hey, I'm not trusting God lately but instead have gone back to the old fleshly patterns of trying to get things done myself. And I know for me, it's always such a relief to stop doing that, and put my trust back in God to accomplish everything in my life that needs to be. And that's when I'll start being more loving again, the peace will return, the joy will return, etc.