If it were me, I'da gone and found that first mutherfker and beat the sumbitch silly and give her a stern talkin, if I loved her, and if she ever did it again I'd leave her in a heartbeat. By now she probably figures you got no backbone cuz ya kicked neither of their asses and maybe she'd be right in thinkin that. If that's the case, maybe that's why she don't want to be inimate with ya, cuz yer not strong enough. I don't intend to be attacking you, just offering a thought for consideration. Its wired into women to want a strong man, to look up to and not down on.