Perhaps....

...you are not doing it consciously, tomi444...
Most parents are not aware of the abuses they cause.

Your father wanted you to be a doctor or an engineer. Nobody ever bothered about what your potential was; maybe you were born to be a poet. Now, forcing you to be an engineer is almost murdering you because engineering cannot be poetry, it is very unpoetic. You may be a born musician and forcing you to become a mathematician is violent, very violent. And for centuries we have been doing this to every child. The child is the most oppressed and exploited person in the whole world.

First we were thinking that the proletariat is the most oppressed class; then we became aware that even more than the proletariat, woman is the most exploited class. Now a third thing is happening. It is already happening.

Those who are pioneers, those who always go on exploring into the unknown, are becoming aware that the child is the most exploited and oppressed person and the most helpless. Even the proletariat are not so helpless. They can fight back, they have their unions and now they have great organizations, political parties and ideologies. The woman is also fighting back, asserting herself. But the child is the problem—who will fight for the child? Because he is so helpless he cannot have unions, he cannot be independent, he cannot earn his own livelihood. He is so utterly dependent that it is very easy to exploit him. And the people who have been exploiting him are not doing it consciously; in fact they intend to help the child in every possible way. They love the child, that’s what they say, but their love is unconscious and anything unconscious, even love, becomes poisonous.

Unconsciousness is poison; it can be destructive to any beautiful thing. And just the opposite is the case with consciousness: a man with consciousness can use even poison in such a way that it becomes medicinal. The unconscious man, even if you give him elixir, ambrosia, is bound to kill himself or others with it. He cannot do otherwise.

Parents are not consciously exploiting their children; they are doing for the child’s sake. They think that if he is an engineer, a scientist, a mathematician, a professor, a politician, a president, a prime minister, that will be good for him; if he is rich, has great money and wealth and name and fame, he will be happy in his life. But they are completely unconscious because they know… they know only in a very very vague way, it is not clear-cut.

They see presidents, prime ministers; they know they are not happy. They themselves may be rich and they know they are not happy. They may have succeeded in their life, in their profession, and they know that life has been just a stupid exercise of utter futility, nothing has been gained. But that’s all they know, and that’s all they can teach. With all good wishes they impose their ideas on the child. Because the child is their possession. The child is "mine".

"Mine-ness" is a disease. It is violent. It is a deeper kind of violence, not so easily seen. As soon as you say 'my child' possessiveness has begun... It is ownership of another person. It is creating enslavement. Whenever we become a person’s owner, we have just killed that person; we have destroyed that person the moment we claim ownership over him or her.

In fact, by owning a person we are treating them not as an individual but as an object. Then a wife becomes "mine"... the children become "my" children, in the same way that a house is mine. Naturally, whenever there is the relationship of ‘mine’, love is not the outcome. What is created is only conflict.

This is why in this world as long as a husband and wife or father and son keep claiming their ownership over each other, only conflict can happen between them – never friendship. The assertion of such ownership is the cause of the friendship’s destruction. Such an assertion of ownership puts everything awry; everything becomes violent.

Whenever there is an assertion of ownership, only hatred is created; and where there is hatred, violence is bound to follow. That is why all our relationships have become relationships of violence. Our families have come to be nothing but relationships of violence.

You can remain in denial if you'd like. You can paste it over with fluffy words like "love" and "being sensitive to a child's needs" But you know it for yourself in what is being said here.

That's why I say, who needs the Illuminati to become enslaved... we have done just fine on our own...