Hopefully things are going better for you... My husband was zero help and thought I was Crazy!
I have tried so many products and spent so much time trying to get my life back... All the suggestions above are great! I would just like to let you know what made a huge different for me!
I used Kirk's Castile soap from my local health food store... If your skin is really sensitive... Use it only in the shower for a week or two... And don't use it on any sensitive areas!
After a while I used used it like a lotion to "spot treatment" problem areas (I used the liquid pump kind) it can dry out the skin... So again use caution... But, after a while I really feel almost "regular" again and it really makes a big difference.
I haven't solved all this... But, I am hopeful!!! But this will definitely help get you on your way quicker!!!