i agree that monogamy is not for everyone and shouldn't be touted as the only way to go.
if you were a woman, things would likely be different, so i don't really think you could predict what it would be like for you.
i wish i could cllmax as easily as rubbing my legs together, but for most of us it ain't that simple!!
i think it's dangerous to equate women who cannot cllmax easily with having "hangups" or not being "free enough" about sex. that may be the case some of the time (or due to factors like previous trauma, gender roles, societal pressures, etc), but i think most of the time it's physiological rather than psychological. perhaps it may also be a poor understanding of various means of stimulation, which is why it's great that there are people like you encouraging their partners to just let go and enjoy it.