Sounds like you're having fun with these and that's great but I was wondering which part of your life you are going to take on changing. Don't know you of course but everyone I know always has something they can do to improve themselves ie drinking, smoking, drugs, getting more exercise etc. I'll vote if it's both of you doing something. Annie

Here's my question to all the fat wives out there: Why would you NOT want to lose the weight? Hmmmmm? You like being slower, more homely, less attractive to your husband, lazier, costlier (eating costs money), etc., etc... Of course not. Then why is it even an issue? Anyone who wants to be fat hasa big problem...BETWEEN THE EARS! Many wives consider being fat "part of the job description" of being married. That's foolishness and needs to be changed immediately in American culture. Husbands don't want fat wives no matter what Maury Povich and Oprah say.

This is primarily a health forum and you are leaving out alot of relevent information. Does she have health issues? Is she happy and comfortable with her weight? Does she have good energy levels? If it is simply about appearance, I agree with her. It is her body, and she has to love it first.

no t fo rappearance reasons but fo rhealth reasons... ahem *screw the guys lol * but for real i fyouare x % above wah tis considered healthy (not skinny) wt fo ryour ht
then i woudl think you waould want to simply to reduce the health risks. you have not said what ht and wt so for alli knowyou are 115 an dhe want syouat 95 !! lol then i woudl no way!if youare 5 '7 and 135 i woudl say no way!! tha tis a health y weight/ mayb eyoujstu need to tone up?
muscle is heavier than fat btw.. soif he is jstu going by the scales well then tha tis crap too.
giv eus the bottom line... how tall and how big?
and i also agree wha tis he goign to give up ? what renew vows? bi gwhoop
he isn't losong nothing.. bet he has a few lov ehandles in there?an dis he willing to eat wha tyou prepare if you do go on a diet/ diet with you ?
btw 30 lbs in 2 years is incredibley logn tiem and certainly nothign major to attain so yeah maybe he soudns a bit off but tha tis an extrmemly long tiem limit tha tis less than 2 lbs a month!! you don't evn ehave to change a thing to do that jstu walkaround block once a night *smile*
even if you don' tlsoe wt/ at least stay in tone...
for personal health.. i don't think yo ushoudl lose it jstu to please a guy.. lose it only if relaly need to fo ryour own health. agin how tall and what wt?
Ami B.

What's with the all the "I'm fat and that's OK" garbage going 'round these days. Thank you, Oprah, appreciate it. Sally Jesse...couldn't have done it without ya! Being fat isn't OK, it's settled for. The American Society of Enablers has encouraged you to feel that it's "just the way you're built", "love me for what's inside", and the ever-popular "I had some kids" excuse. Doesn't work with 'ol MtnnDeww. We married you when you were thin and looking good, now you've eaten yourself into a new body suit. Change it. Lose it. Is that asking too much? Candy...you go on that diet and quit with the excuses. You look better thin. You feel better thin. Better sex is to be had...you guessed it...thin! I'm not talking Ally McBeal thin, healthy normal thin is what American husbands want. Many a wife has lost her hubby's attention because she was married Daisy Fuentes and now looks like Starr Jones! As Howard Dean said it..."AARRRGGGHHH!"