Dear lynbur, Sorry to hear about your situation. I know how it feels to not feel good enough. I had a period of time when I despised myself for everything. Please try to realize that you are good enough. You’re the best you can be and that your husband and children love you. I know it’s hard, believe me. I never would have believed it either if someone told me that 7 years ago, but it’s true. I’m sure you’re a wonderful person with a lot to give. Hope you feel better soon. (((())))   [End]
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I have been about 4 months with out any cutting, burning, etc. Well, tonight I ended my streak after an arguement with my husband. I just feel like I am not good enough, not a good enough mother, not a good enough wife. In general I just feel like I am never going to be good enough. I am so tired of trying to be perfect and I am failing miserably. I hurt myself tonight and now I am ashamed that I caved so quickly. I did not think before I did it. Only after. I really need some help. I see my therapist this week, so I am hopeful that I will be able to stay ”clean” from self injury ...
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Hi, I’m sorry to read about your experiences, but feel like I have to give you the only advice I can and that is to take your medication. I am sure they had to give you some meds for your illness, bipolar. They can help you feel better. You definitely don’t want the situation to get out of hand. I have a brother who is bipolar and his episodes are very wild and he recently started burning himself and he put his hands on a stove burner, because he stopped taking meds. Twice now he’s burned himself real bad and I believe if someone else wasn’t there both times than he probably would hav ...
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I don’t know the exact reason for your daughter’s cutting. She’s the only person who might. All I know is that cutting is nearly always a symptom of a bigger problem. Ignoring that and trying to force someone to stop hurting themselves will only make stuff worse. I’m 19 and have been cutting myself since I was 15. I was suicidal before that and tried to kill myself many times. So I cut to survive, to release the tension and the pain before it builds up so much I can’t take it anymore, cause I know it would hurt people if I killed myself. My parents don’t realise there’s much wrong with me ...
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You are definately not alone. I’m female but nearly all the people I know who self mutilate are male. p.s. congradulations, you’re doing well.   [End]
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My e-mail is irene.mcquillan2@mail.dcu.ie and you can e-mail me if you’d like. I don’t know how much help I’d be but I cut too so I’d probably understand at least a bit.   [End]
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i know exactly what you mean i understand totally because that is how i feel   [End]
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I was put in a mental hospital 3 weeks ago for cutting, depression, and suicidal thoughts. I was diagnosed with depression, dysthimia and manic depression (bipolar). I was cutting and my mom found out so her and my sister put me into the mental hospital. I stopped cutting after I got home for about a week and then I started doing it again. I’m really tired of people telling me it’s stupid. They just make me feel worse and make me want to do it more. I hate listening to people telling me to stop. Right now I’m going crazy because my mom took everything sharp away from me and I’ve bee ...
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Everyone always tell me that when I get the urge to cut to call a friend or call my sister. When in reality I’d rather just cut then talk to them about it. I never think about calling someone when I’m going to cut. I zone out and the only thing that I think about is cutting and getting that sad feeling out of me. I’ve called friends before when I feel like cutting but either I’m not talking to that person long enough or I’m just not listening to what they are saying. In the end I still feel like cutting myself even though I don’t always do it.   [End]
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aw thankyou and yes its always when im alone and i feel noone cares even though they do! so next time i feel like cutting i will phone a friend. thanks ill try it .xxx   [End]
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Bless your heart!!!!! when do you cut yourself? is it always when you are alone and depressed? if so, when ya feel like cutting, call for help~~~phone a friend or a cricis hotline~~~~Somebody out there will talk with you!!! I know I would be willing to talk with ya and help ya to get that outta your mind. Please~~~let Somebody help!!!   [End]
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im on antidepresants, i have depression, i dont use drugs not eligal ones   [End]
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Are you on any medication or do you use drugs! Have you been diagnosed with any illness?   [End]
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help im addicted to cutting its ruening my life and upsetting my friend who im gonna lose if i dont stop. i need her shes my rock please help   [End]
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i need some help and support from u all i need to STOP cutting myself and making myself sick. i need to stop but its so hard   [End]
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ummm.... hello everyone i guess the best way to start is i have a friend who has been cutting for years. i have been trying to help them for 4 months now. they have been getting counceling but its not really helping. plus getting them to open up has been getting harder. i am need to get information about cutting because i really care about my friend i need info really anything u guys/girls have including ways to cope with it please feel free to email me with any informaion u have just let me know its u guys in the subject type so i dont delete it thank you, hyperlink3720   [End]
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For support and information...go to www.paxilprogress.org..   [End]
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I am glad that I am not totally alone. I, too, am one of those rarities - a male self-mutilator. Lemme give ya a lil background: my father is Chinese who grew up in Indonesia and British Colonial Malay and my mother is also Chinese but she is from FooChow on the Mainland. My parents met after the Japanese Occupation. I was born in London, England in 1964, Year of the Dragon. I was born Ceasarean Sectioned and with mild synaethesia (I ”see” neon colours when exposed to certain sound frequencies). When I was about 4 years old we moved to America - Houston, Texas to be highly specific. It ...
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They are very dangerous and cause some people to become homicidal or suicidal. You need to watch your daughter CLOSELY to see if she gets worse. If she does, then you need to consider getting help from a naturopath to ween her off. Here is a link you should check out: http://www.drugawareness.org/home.html   [End]
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Anti depressants actually can cause suicidal tendancies. These ”medications” are poison. YOU need to be there and just listen to her, take her places, treat her out to lunch often, have special times together adn maybe she will start to open up and let you in on why her life is the way it is. Cutting is a cry for help. Dont just give her drugs. But also dont take her off cold turkey either- this could cause her to commit suicide as well!!! You have to educate yourself about the dangers of these meds. Search the net. And pray to God you and her find what you are looking for, God is ever ...
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I recently found out that my 17 year old daughter is cutting. She has been diagnosed with depression and her meds were increased yesterday. Can anyone help me to understand why she is doing this? She won’t talk to us and isn’t really upset that we found out. More angry that she has lost some of her privacy by us finding out. Any information you can give me would be greatly appreciated.   [End]
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I know how you feel.... the weird thing is as you said all those things I felt like it was me. I can’t make myself want to stop. Even though I do know it is bad. I can’t make myself care. It’s nice to know there is someone out there like me. http://www.xanga.com/To_Cry_No_More   [End]
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I forgot to click on the space that says I am wanting a response   [End]
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Funny I came across this my mommy is from Belfast....and her life was worse than ”Angela’s Ashes” if you ever saw the movie or read the book- yes I inherited the Irish temperament. My Mom is always saying when I get taken advantage of or pushed into a corner-”Where’s your Irish?” Well it’s there but from my up bringing of never to disrespect people especially your elders- how could I have ever figured out a way to express my anger toward anyone in a non-abusive way- so when it gets so bad-especially under the influence of alcohol-I turn all that rage on myself-because I feel defenseless.......
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I feel like I am an adolecent- alcohol and an argument with my husband when he is under the influence as well has resulted in me either cutting or burning myself. WHen not under the influence of alcohol I know I wouldn’t do self-harm that would leave obvious scars-I just don’t know understand my diagnosis of BDP as far as the SI goes why I only seem to do it under the influence of alcohol.   [End]
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I urge you to get counseling. It sounds to me like you really do want to stop and that’s the first step towards working on the problem. Please tell your parents you want help. If you feel like you can’t tell them, then talk to your guidance counselor. You don’t say how old you are but if you are still in school, that’s a place to start. My daughter kept her cutting problem hidden from us for 3 years before we found out. She told a teacher who told her guidance counselor who then called us. We got her counseling but she apparently convinced the counselor that she did it only once. T ...
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ive been trying to stop for about 2 years and no matter how hard i try it never works out what am i doing wrong?   [End]
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Yeah, well, what human beings are supposed to do is... LIVE (not just experience life, but FEEL aLIVE). For a human being, the definition of the word ”LIFE” is: EXPERIENCING everything that life has to offer (emotionally). The two basic emotions are: Happiness and IT’S OPPOSITE----sadness (and PAIN, package deal, one can’t be understood or felt properly without a proper undersrstanding of the other). You don’t need to be ”fixed”, in fact, you mentioned in your post that you FEEL alive when you cut. The same reason that the songbird ...
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Interestingly I am Irish. I don’t know if I’ve much faith in your theory but I guess it wouldn’t hurt to at least make an effort to take care of myself. No cod liver oil though (I’m vegeterian)   [End]
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i’m kind of having a problem with this, so maybe someone out there can help. i can’t make myself actually want to stop cutting. my parents found out, my best friend thinks its all her fault, but i still do it. i know it sounds like complaining, but i just don’t know what to do. i listen to music, i do art, i play guitar... it doesn’t help enough. i’m not even scared of cutting. i like it. so now what? i’m at a loss.   [End]
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I don’t know if you’r still checking this but I write to so I guess I’ll help you out. Before I start cutting I feel frustrated and angry, like there’s some sort of energy building up inside of me that I need to get out. I might do something else for a while like bang my hand off a fence or wall if the situation means I can’t cut but that doesn’t help much. When I get the blade or knife into my hand I feel power. I need to see blood (but I know that’s not the same for everybody.) If I can’t make myself bleed cause the knife’s not sharp enough I get more frustrated. I feel I’m a whimp ca ...
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I don’t know if you’r still checking this but I write to so I guess I’ll help you out. Before I start cutting I feel frustrated and angry, like there’s some sort of energy building up inside of me that I need to get out. I might do something else for a while like bang my hand off a fence or wall if the situation means I can’t cut but that doesn’t help much. When I get the blade or knife into my hand I feel power. I need to see blood (but I know that’s not the same for everybody.) If I can’t make myself bleed cause the knife’s not sharp enough I get more frustrated. I feel I’m a whimp ca ...
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I don’t think you’re broken, no more than everyone else is at least. Emotions are hard. Pain is easy. Stops your head feeling like its going to implode. ’How to stop’ is all it seems to say on the web sites. I guess they’re all written by phyciatrists, relatives of people who cut or people who don’t need it anymore. (I’m probably generalising cause there must be thousands of sites out there.) But people don’t cut themselves cause they want to upset everyone who cares about them. It’s cause they need to do it. That’s why I do it anyway. It keeps me sane. (Well less insane at least.) Maybe i ...
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This is a message I just posted a few days ago...maybe it will help. maybe it won’t. It’s just my personal reasons why I do it and will probably continue to do it. I don’t know why I do it. But I do it none-the-less. I am fine until I realize that I can’t feel anything...no happiness, anger, sadness, or pain...nothing at all. It is then that I take matters into my own hands. Pain is a basic human feeling. Even the most ”messed-up” people/animals can feel pain and react to it. It is fear that drives me...if I can’t feel pain I must finally be dead, and my struggle has ended. But i ...
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I don’t know why I do it. But I do it none-the-less. I am fine until I realize that I can’t feel anything...no happiness, anger, sadness, or pain...nothing at all. It is then that I take matters into my own hands. Pain is a basic human feeling. Even the most ”messed-up” people/animals can feel pain and react to it. It is fear that drives me...if I can’t feel pain I must finally be dead, and my struggle has ended. But if I can feel pain, then at least I know I’m still technically alive, and should find the strength to overcome the hardships. And then I cut myself, each time harder and deep ...
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that’s a purty cool site. thanks for giving me the address or whatever. take care!   [End]
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When I first began self harming, I of course decided to go online and see if there was anyone else who did what I do. I found a site called RecoverYourLife.com. It has helped me beyond belief, and I hope you all come there and see the support given. Good luck to you all. Emily   [End]
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do you ever wonder why we need more pain when our lives have enough? why is this something i struggle with every day, or close to it? i’m so afraid of messing it up again. it’s been nearly a month since i last cut or scratched i think. do you ever do it to feel? cuz you feel so disconnected from the world? i do it because of that sometimes, sometimes to feel in control. my whole life is so crazy and my thoughts are spinning out of control. i can’t control anything, not even my thoughts! they get so in the way they become my worst enemy and i just beat myself up mentally, sometimes physical ...
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hey i also ”cut” and some ways i hide scares in visible places is i use conceler it works fairly well if you get the right skin tone match   [End]
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Great post!!! I stumbled on to this forum a few weeks ago and found it to be very interesting. I am sure there are a lot of people who will gain from this post. Ana   [End]
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well, i had the same feelings you did. i didn’t want them to judge me or think of me differently, ya know. but when i finally let it out when i called my best friend, she was really quiet. i asked her if i scared her and she said yes, but she also said she was glad i told her. then i told another person i trust who used to cut herself. a couple other people know and they were pretty understanding and not condemning or acccusing. i guess the best thing they did was listen and pray for me. they didnt have to say much, just encourage me. my advice is to tell someone older than you and try not ...
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You said that it helped to talk about it to people who knew. I was just wondering what their reaction was the first time you told them. I want to talk to them, but i’m afraid of what they will think. It even scares me and i’m the one doing it, so I can’t imagine what they would think. I don’t want them to think any less of me, or that i’m not the same person they always knew. But, i guess that’s just something to talk to them about. Thanks for your advice and prayers. Meg   [End]
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that’s pretty much how i felt when i first cut myself. i didn’t really think about what i was doing...i just did it. it was pretty recent too...like a couple months ago. but it didn’t get really bad for me. when i cut myself, it never bled...it was just enough to make a mark. i also never thought i would do anything like this. it just happened ya know? well, to stop, usually when i feel the urge to cut myself, i distract myself. things like making something, drawing, jogging, writing, typing, playing an instrument, calling someone, making collages, ripping and popping bubblewrap (believe m ...
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I just cut myself for the first time yesterday. It made me feel so much better, but now I’m scared. I didn’t mean to do it, it just kinda happened. What do I do now? I never thought i’d do something like this, but once I started, it was hard to stop. What does this mean, I’m afraid that I won’t be able to stop now. I just wanted to talk to some people who know what I’m talking about. I don’t think my friends would get it. Thanks Meg   [End]
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today on the train on my way home from school i started chewing on my lip. it’s a nervous habit i have. anyway, i was biting the inside of my lip and i didn’t realize i was doing it i guess cuz the next second i found the inside of my mouth was bleeding a   [End]
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wow. i didn’t realize how artistic they are sometimes. i usually scratch myself in random places on my arm and they usually look like ordinary accidents or whatever. some people cut words into their skin, which is something i wasn’t aware of. i’ve been researching a lot about it too. it makes me depressed sometimes, but i’ve found some reasons behind my cutting and scratching myself...like why i do it and what causes me to do it and stuff like that. thanks for the site.   [End]
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ya. it sucks doesn’t it? i wonder if i’m really addicted to it, kinda like drugs or an eating disorder. i mean, i can resist usually, but sometimes i just don’t really think about what i’m doing and do it before i really realize what i’m doing. is this making any sense? lol. sorry. i’m tired   [End]
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When I found this forum, I did not know that such things occurred. I decided to surf the net for some information on this subject. This may not be the best website for counseling, but it has pictures that show a persons struggle through cutting… I guess cutting is addictive and a cry for help. Ana http://www.psyke.org/pictures/t/titania/ http://www.psyke.org/warning.html http://www.psyke.org/pictures/t/titania/ http://www.psyke.org/warning.html   [End]
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Its definately incredibly hard. Cause sometimes I’m doing wicked well and then one small little thing will happen and it alll goes downhill from there.   [End]
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ya i’m wondering about it too. it’s hard to know when you’ve stopped completely. the last time i scratched myself was a week and a half ago and i’m hoping i never do it again...but i can’t be sure about it. once you start, it’s incredibly hard to stop. my friend was asking me today if cutting can become an addiction. i said, ya if you start doing it often, kinda like people who smoke or have eating disorders. am i addicted? it’s hard to tell, isn’t it? i feel the urge a lot but usually i can resist i think.   [End]
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How do you stop cutting and stay stopped. I can stop for a month or so at a time but it always comes back it just did yesterday.   [End]
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How do you enjoy life after that cause thats kind of where I’m at right now   [End]
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...speaks of acceptance. Once you learn to accept the things you cannot change, you shouldn’t need to self destruct... ;0) Wiz   [End]
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Greetings all: Three years ago, I didn’t realize this at the time, I was going through some extremely hard times. Basically, it was the lowest of low points for me physically. I was eating gluten (protein found in wheat, barley, etc). Anyhow, I was not absorbing my B vitamins properly. Anyhow, after a couple months of racing thoughts, constant suicidal thoughts, and having my body constantly in a fight or flight response, I tried to commit suicide. I have multiple scars to this day, which are still partly visible. To someone not familiar with this, it sounds so foreign. I remember ...
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thanks. ya, praying helps. you can’t really cut yourself while you’re praying can you? i mean, you’re talking to God. it would be kinda hypocriticle i think. prayer definately works. i’m just trying to do it more often. it’s hard sometimes.   [End]
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Thanks that does help. More entries would be great. Thanks Lizabeth ©†ƒ……•™¼‡_Original_Message_¾€š½ž¢«»¬ï°© Thanks that does help. More entries would be great. Thanks Lizabeth   [End]
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”i kinda just do it. usually i’m just thinking about life and about the things i can’t control. i’m a control freak” How about saying the Serenity Prayer instead of cutting. This sure works for addicts and alcoholics... God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference. ;0) Wiz ©†ƒ……•™¼‡_Original_Message_¾€š½ž¢«»¬ï°© ”i kinda just do it. usually i’m just thinking about life and about the things i can’t control. i’m a control freak” How about saying the Serenity ...
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wow. that’s a long time. i’m sorry you had to go through all this. i just started about a month and a half ago. i’m 16 years old. i guess i didn’t really think of it as self injury when i cut and scratched myself...until i researched it and found out what it really is and foudn that there are others who can support me. i don’t think you’re a freak. sometimes i think i am, but then i realize that i cut myself for the same reasons people have addictions to drugs or have an eating disorder. they aren’t more sane than i am. the important thing for me is not letting myself be defined as a cut ...
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well, usually i don’t think much about whether i should cut or scratch myself or not... i kinda just do it. usually i’m just thinking about life and about the things i can’t control. i’m a control freak and when expectations get too high or if too many things change at once i feel trapped and i dont know how to express or let out what i’m feeling. i try to explain it to people but i can’t get out what i really want to say. cutting, scratching, and biting myself is my way of letting it out. for me, it’s not as much seeing the blood as it is seeing a mark. in fact, when i first started i tol ...
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hey. i’m really nervous cuz we’re starting swimming for a month in gym and i’m really self concious about my scars. they’re not too noticible b/c they’re not very deep, but i don’t want anyone to ask about them. if they do what do i say? most of the cuts and scratches are on my left arm. i’m hoping they look like normal scars or whatever, but i’m still so nervous about revealing so much of my skin and there’s no way of hiding the scars, is there? can you help me here?   [End]
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thanks. i’m definately working on getting my feelings out in a good way. gtg. i have a buncha school stuff to study for. ttyl   [End]
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I am a writer trying to shed some light on cutting and self-mutalation. I hope to help people understand that cutters aren’t crazy or sick; but are people who have problems, just like everyone else. I have some personal experiences but I would like to have a broader prospective. I was hoping that you all could write some of the thoughts you have WHILE you are cutting/hurting yourselves. If it is too painful or embarassing, don’t worry about writing. But, If you can, it would really help. Thanks, you all are awesome and so strong. ©†ƒ……•™¼‡_Original_Message_¾€š½ž¢«»¬ï°© I am a wr ...
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I understand a bit about self destructive behavior, (I have had a ’very’ checkered past...), so I am willing to listen without being judgmental if you need to sound off a bit. We have a couple of different Christianity forums here with some good hearted people. I am not your standard Christian type, but I post mostly on Enlightened/Esoteric Christianity. I am a bit of a gadfly, so I wander around a bit and post on other forums too (we have an interesting exchange going on at the Atheist forum) So, if you need some debate or support friends just stop by. As to self mutilation, I gu ...
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i’m sorry you had to go through all your neighbors’ negative talk. maybe they don’t really mean what they’re saying. maybe they do, but dont know how it affects you. i dunno. just don’t pay attention to it, if that’s what makes you cut. i don’t know. i’m a cutter myself. well, actually i decided to stop cutting, but sometimes i scratch myself really hard. maybe we can work through this together. i’m not sure how much i can help you, but at least we both know we’re not alone. have you told anyone else about your cutting problem? how old are you?   [End]
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hey. i’m new to this site thingy. i recently started cutting a little more than a month ago. i moved out of state 5 months ago and i guess that brought on some anxiety. i felt out of control and boxed in...trapped. so i cut myself and it relieved me a little. kinda surprising, but scary. i decided to stop, but sometimes i scratch myself instead. my nails became the new weapon of self harm. God is helping me through it tho. i’m a christian and i think that’s the main reason why i decided to stop. cutting was my way of getting control, but along with that, it was my way of avoiding God. i di ...
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Hey Katy- I stumbled upon this website and read your post. I am also a cutter, though Ive only been doing it for about 3-4 years... Im 19. I sorta thought it would be nice to talk to someone who knows how I feel, but who I dont know directly. I been trying to stop and get help, but its really hard, and I just keep finding excuses to do it, and better places to hide it. If you are interested in talking, write me. Im not sure how this thing works... if Ill see your post or if it shows up in my email... but if you do wanna talk ill figure it out.   [End]
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Although that is a very good post, excellent post thank you Alisaun so much, I still think that is not the whole issue for everyone. I first witnessed a friend of mine cutting her arm, she had been somewhat disturbed, long story, but to make it short, some people learn it by seeing other people do it. And some do it because they try and hurt themselves because they are depressed, unhappy, going through teenage years, thoughts of suicide, hating themselves etc. ( not feeling loved or fitting in) Doing a liver flush does not always address these problems in a young adult going thru rough t ...
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What I think could help you is finding the source of the depression, or negative feelings against yourself. Whats wrong? What are you not getting. Do you feel alone, is there noone to confide in? Sometimes when there is love in your heart about yourself and happiness with yourself you wont feel the need to cut and harm yourself. If you stopped and started again, then try to pinpoint what is troubling you. Find one friend, or better do you have a sister you can confide in- someone. If you see you cannot get what you want at this time- clear your mind of it and set a goal. It could be any ...
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Lorybeth--I suggest that you be truthful with your friends. The fact that you’re cutting where it can be seen, tells me that on some level you want others to know. You don’t say how old you are, but if you are still living at home, please consider telling your parents. If you feel you can’t talk to them, then tell your guidance counselor or a trusted adult. My daughter did just that and we got her help. We weren’t angry with her, just very concerned. In the end, it’s up to you. I do hope you get help because if you don’t, it could well lead to other problems. I’m not trying to scar ...
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Thank you for responding to my message. I take great comfort in these words you wrote, ”it’s not you.” Hopefully, my daughter knows that I’m there for her. Right now, things are very strained between us--not just the cutting but more. I wish you all the best, and again, thank you for your response.   [End]
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well i’m new to this site, but anyways so i’m a cutter, i’ve been doing it for about the last year, but now that i’m really getting into it again my friends are starting to ask about the marks on my arm and i don’t know how to explain it. does anybody have any ideas??   [End]
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Hi. I justed wanted to let you know that sometimes, we just cut or hit, whatever the vice, even if it seems like nothing is wrong. I put my parents through the same thing. I started when I was 12...I did all the ”right” things...sports, student council, homecoming & prom princess & queen. I was cought so many times, but always talked my way out of it. Today, I still do it. I’m not even sure why i’m writing you. I just thought you could use some reasurance that it is not you. My mom knows & tries to help & even though I don’t accept her help, it’s nice to know that she’s there. I’m ...
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i cut on my ankels and legs, i have to go to a wedding next sat. i have to wear a dress. my ankels will be showing i have one scar i really need to hide, as it is a carving of an ankh...and its clearly visable, anyother way to hide it besides a bandaid?   [End]
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this is a support forum... yes fixing the problem is the final goal... but being comfortable with what’s wrong is a very good start to being able to talk to people about it and FIXING IT.... I’m tired of people on this website who don’t understand the meaning of support... I’m tired of jerks who think they have all the answers and put others down because THEY know the RIGHT way to do everything.... get over yourself and realize that we’re all here to help eachother and get help ourselves...   [End]
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Very interesting post, Nordskoven. My daughter, who cuts, is one-quarter Irish and has a trace of Native American Indian blood. While I doubt she’ll listen to me, I will tell her to consider your advice re: digestive enzymes.   [End]
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This is do-able. You have to be patient and dump the emotional baggage. Other shame junkies have their own issues: don’t mamke them yours. You have started making honest observations. Just need a little more info, and patient kindness...for yourself, from yourself. Here’s the big picture from a wonderful post below: ”Cutting is a disease of blockage and toxicity. It is not primarily psychological in nature, it is PHYSIOLOGICAL. It is your body, simply trying to survive. What happens is, when you are in pain from depression (blockage and toxicity), one of your bodies’ defense mechanis ...
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Which part of Alisaun’s ”What worked for me” didn’t you get? Fix it, don’t indulge it or identify with it. FIX IT! And if you can’t see that, beat it. Get out.   [End]
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Thank God that Alisaun didn’t start identifying with and adapting to a physical affliction. I am so delighted with Alisaun’s patient, clinical approach: truthful observation and brilliant speculation. That’s keeping it real. There are genetic and metabolic types who are generally more PHYSIOLOGICALLY at risk. Those who tend to have low stomach acid, like those having Irish and Native American lineages, will have a set of protective metabolic shields that are weaker in the face of the onslaught of environmental toxins and low mineral and nutrient levels in foods. Throw in the mirac ...
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There is a wonderful website... there are lots and lots of people young and old... its a forum/community like this... it’ll show you more beautiful options, and basically get the same relief.... if that isn’t for you, there are also a good number of ”cutters” and what not in the community with forums.... just another place you can turn for support and other options... the site is www.bmezine.com (the community is http://iam.bmezine.com ) check it out, but like I said before, it may not be for every one, I just want you to know there are places and options for you... *hugz* A girl who’s ...
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My daughter started cutting when she was in middle school. Seems a so-called friend convinced her to start. She was very good at hiding it. All the articles on cutting say things like --people who cut always wear long pants and long-sleeved shirts. Well, she always wore shorts and tank tops in the summer and we saw no signs of cutting. Or--People who cut have low self-esteem. She always projected an image of someone with high self-esteem and high self-confidence. She’s never afraid to be assertive or out-spoken. Also--people who cut are going through some trauma, like their parents ...
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Hi. Instead of trying to tell him you want to help or for him to stop...Ask him how he feels when he cuts himself. Like, does it make him feel better, what is he thinking about whene he does it, etc. You might be able to find out what kind of relief cutting gives him & then maybe find another source of relief.   [End]
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Hi. I started hurting myself when I was 12. I’m 31 now, & it is getting worse. I’ve actally gone from burning, to cutting, to hitting. This last episode, 3 days ago, I think is possibley the most painful to look at...Anyway...I just wanted you to know, that you are not alone. Pain does not care what size, race or where you live. I had everything, & it is all I can do to get out of bed every morning & go to work. The one thing that keeps me going is maybe finding someone I can talk to, who would understand & not look at me like i’m a freak. All I know is, it is getting harder to sta ...
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Hello, I’m also a self harmer and am willing to help if at all possible. For a little bit of background, my name is Kate, and I’m 20. I’ve been cutting since I was around twelve but have about three weeks cut free. 8-) It’s a hard road, but it is worth it. Do you have any ’real’ in person supports to help you with this? For me, it takes that to really get better. But, I’m always here to listen also. -Katy (if you want you can e-mail me privately at K8ty777@aol.com)   [End]
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somebody help me. ever since i was 10 i have been overweight growing up in a small town a was close to all of my naighbors and since i was overweight i had to listen to all of there trash talk. at the age of 12 i got sick of it i started cutting and i got very isaleded just liiking for somebody who can talk to me about my problem   [End]
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i hear wat ur saying but i dunno whenever i read this kind ofs tuff it makes me fee l like it was so much worse then it actually was its kinda scary i guess.. becuz hey im like 16 yrs old and i have enuff friends but maybe im not being heard, maybe im not as comfortable with telling them things as i think... i mean only two friends knwo about it and idid talk about it with one friend alot only when it was really bad, but sometimes i do feel that way... like i listen to everyones crapo and stuff and then there;’s no place for me to talk about how ifeel. i dunno ur thing reaally made me think
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Hi there Im an ozzie writer looking for people to help me with an article on self mutilation. As im a former harmer I will besensitive and understanding of your thoughts and views. Im wanting to do a piece for Cosmopolitan magazine. It will be a real life piece on one person over 18 and their struggle with mutilating. If anyone is keen on helping me and other people gain a true understanding of harming, i’d appreciate your thoughts. Thanks Katy   [End]
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Many people missinterpret what this really is. It’s an addiction to ”adrenaline” it’s a connection to the misery that we like to romanticize in our lives. This sounds pretty harsh but it is a harsh reality. One that I myself had to overcome. A simple way to explain it is that usually a person does not do this if they are happy. Usually it’s happening during times of ”depression”. Some poeple drink during these times, others do drugs, others write self loathing poetry and still others cut or mutilate their own bodies. It forms itself into a habitual addiction. Depression is a w ...
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Low stomach acid means Irish and Native Americans have a harder time drawing nutrients from food, so are more at risk from things like ADD, and other nerve-deadened states which might seek out ”overstimulation.” Take digestive enzymes, Cod Liver Oil caps and Choline from Soy or Egg Yolks for starters and check out the ADHD Forum.   [End]
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My boyfriend has some issues and I can no longer think of ways to try and help him. Ever since he can remember he’s kept his big problems to himself and didn’t tell anyone. To me, I don’t think that’s healthy. He has hurt himself in the past by cutting, and recently he’s been doing it. I know he has because he tells me when I see he has a bandage and I ask what happened. He says its not a big deal and I shouldn’t try and help him anymore. I’ve told him that I love him and care about him and want to help but all I get back is ”I know you love me. But don’t try and help. You can’t.” If anyon ...
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i think it’s fair to say that there are many different reasons why people cut themselves, and at one point you will stumble upon someone’s story that relates EXACTLY to yours, so it’s great to have all of these opinions here one other opinion is this: i use to cut a lot when i was little(7-12), and then kind of stopped, and then started again when i got a bit older(early 20’s)... and had a recent bout with it too, and i’m 28 now and for me it’s the inability to express verbally all the internal turmoil and pain... there simply are no words that suffice, and the other bi ...
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I believe this too, most are not really crazy, something is causing it. Sometimes it is something like mercury, other times, held in anger and hate. Many times it is very easy to hate some people, what they do to us. Best to try to get away from them as soon as possible, and to try to deal with inner hate and anger. If you REALLY sit there and think about what you do to yourself, and think what you are really doing, I bet you would not do it. YOU have been given the gift of life, and to have someone do something to you, or abuse you, then go away, and here YOU are having to dea ...
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I think that this is a serious oversimplification. This protocol may work with your body to help eliminate the symptoms (cutting being one of them) but it also takes away the impetus for psychological treatment. I agree to some extent though - if your goal is simply to stop the behavior, dramatically improving your physical health will make that much, much easier. When I stopped cutting I’d suggest reading ”Cutting: Understanding And Overcoming Self-Mutilation” by Stephen Levenkron. I don’t know if that’s the same book Ali was thinking of, but I liked it a lot. Do a quick Google search ...
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yea joshua, while wat u say makes a lotta sense, it was a lil different for me. i cut for about four months and thank G-d i was able to get out of it. but what you said on the bottom, about focusing on the eternal pain- for me i think it was more about being able to LOOK at my pain and look at my hurting. i understand now about the whole endorphin stuff but i didnt know about that until i had even stopped. not only was it numbing but it was alot about instant and very momentary understanding of why i was hurting, and the scars reminded me of that . i guess what kind of got me out of it wa ...
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I have worked with a number of people that cut on themselves... From their prospective, it comes down to CONTROL. (ie) The cutting is a type of pain that they can control.. and for most, its a way of feeling in control or distracting from the untouchable or vague INTERNAL pain from past hurts, anger, pain, abuse, etc. (that pain..the internal pain, they can’t control, cant make it stop and can’t ’fix’ it.. But the physical cutting is a type of pain that THEY INFLICT and can control the intensity of or the amount of pain... Plus it is much easier to focus on the expernal pain (of cutting) ...
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IF you have mercury (silver) fillings you are being poisoned with a very potent neurotoxin which will make you crazy. You must have them removed to stop the poisoning.   [End]
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There is a new book on self-injury called, No More Pain! Breaking the Silence of Self-Injury. Just thought you all would be interested. www.nomorepain.info   [End]
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Please contact Andreas Moritz (”Ask Andreas” forum). I believe he can give you the help you are seeking. Prayers and good wishes to you.   [End]
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Great post Alisaun! The best explanation for ”cutting” I have heard so far! Its great that your where able to struggle through all that and can now share your victories with those who can benefit from your experiences! Grog   [End]
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Yo, if any one has advice on how to stop cutting post it!   [End]
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