For me, I quit responding in such a way that I was feeding HIS ”stuff”. No wood for the fire, there is no fire. I am curious as to what it is that you quit. I think I know, but was wanting to hear from you - what did you quit. Not feeding the ”Dynamic” is very difficult, sometimes I don’t succeed. But I am now giving it an opportunity to change on its own, without my ”well meaning assistance”. I feel better that way. My current relationship may not survive. ”we got issues”. But that’s ok. I get a chance to see what I do, no finger pointed at him. (well, sometimes, but I try to snap out of ...
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Ok, sounds weird, but think about this: Maybe your wife is starting to respond because YOU are behaving differently. Before you say No, listen: thoughts are energy, energy that produces a result. Thoughts are creative. They create, they have life. A thought does NOT, as the saying goes, ”come out of nowhere” - they come from you, and they go somewhere and produce a result. Often when people try to change in a big way, things will go haywire particularly in the area of change. As if your crap jumps up and says ”are you sure you want to get rid of me? I have served you all these years”. ...
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I read this whole thread, and kinda deep-sighed over some of this, and felt that I wanted to add to it. I have read several self-deprecating statements that you have written, and these statements are very familiar to me, as I spoke in the language that you use for years. I will give you an example, and mind you, I am paraphrasing:”I am such a nice guy, and women don’t appreciate it *deep sigh*, I don’t care a thing about myself, just so SHE’S happy *deep sigh*, I know, I know, it’s all my fault, I should know better, but I don’t, I am just a man *deep, sad sigh*,I will simply carry on with ...
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I was a total hysterectomy - oh wait, only one ovary removed - you know, I only feel a little sorry for myself- not a big sorry... take the time and effort to have your levels checked, I will be soon. Honestly, I think that will make the biggest difference with how I care for myself...   [End]
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to be honest, and i am not posting with my number for the sake of naked honesty, so no crummy jokes, ok?, but yes, there is a difference for me. Before the hysterectomy, I could feel the penis ”bumping” my uterus, and now I cannot feel that feeling, of course. I feel an empty space up high, and my sex partner does not feel that ”resistance” either. Although sex is ok, I can tell it is different for him, based on his responses. As far as emotionality goes, I don’t feel as much now and I do miss it. I miss my sex parts that are gone. I have to work harder at my libido, as testosterone the ...
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I was thinking that perhaps it would be better if you did not allow a man to ”get involved” with you, or to fall in love. Maybe it would be better, if you want to continue protecting your Self from love, not to go into relationship with them. There are so many (too many) men that just want a f***buddy type deal. And that way, no one gets hurt and everyone gets their itch scratched. I was involved with a man who was a player, and like the mouse and the cheese, I ran down the 4th tunnel over and over again regarding him. I noticed when he would select a new woman to cheat on me with, that t ...
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Like Harleygrl, I spent years in a lop-sided relationship and only got wasted years to show for it. I am curious as to what it is you love about this man? He is as unavailable as can be. He really doesn’t even sound likeable. You said that you wouldn’t mind if he talked to girls if he didn’t do all the other stuff he does. He won’t stop doing that, trust me. He gets a narcissitic feed off the attention I am sure. After all, he’s a ”rock star”, so I feel certain that he enjoys the ”groupie” attention. That probably will not change. You are asking for our help. I think you knew we w ...
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I live in Texas and believe me, meth is very very cheap and very prolific here. Deep down you know what he is doing in Texas - let me tell you out loud what he is doing - he is a drug addict. He is buying and smoking or shooting or snorting meth. He is engaged in an activity that is ONLY destructive and illegal, too. If you are pulled over and are with him and he is in possession, there is a certainty that you will go to jail too. A drug conviction will not allow you to get welfare benefits, many jobs, or rent some apartments. Your life will forever be changed. A drug addict will allow yo ...
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Trust me on this one (let me emphasize) GET OUT, GET AWAY, STAY AWAY, DON’T BEG, TRY TO PLEAD, TRY TO GET HIM TO LISTEN, SEE THE LIGHT, GET HELP - JUST GO. p 0 r n IS AN ADDICTION, DRUGS ARE ABSOLUTELY A FACTOR HERE, AND IF YOU QUIT LIVING IN DENIAL YOU KNOW THAT HE IS USING - THERE IS NO WINNING FROM METH, AND OBSESSION WITH p 0 r n IS A SPIRITUAL SICKNESS, YOU ARE INVOLVED WITH A SICK AND DIRTY MAN, AND EVENTUALLY HE WILL BRING YOU HOME SOMETHING THAT WATER CANNOT WASH OFF. My sister, who has a masters degree, by the way, got with a guy who started using meth. Same thing - obsessed w ...
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