Sorry for your waste! :) I know what you are saying. I don't know why most people stay in those type of relationships, but I have had a few myself and I think I did it out of lonliness and insecurity. I know I can do better, but I dislike dating and going through all of the moves! I really did like this guy, and he made me have butterflies, but like you said, he was more interested in himself and his pain to even ask me how my life was going. I think he just assumed that my life was golden compared to his and he didn't need to ask me those questions. It is nice to know when someone cares! I do know this, the saying "actions speak louder than words" is so true. Thanks for the reply!