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Re: Cheated on and not sure what to do
I do not wish to come accross as harsh, but why do you hold the "other woman" responsible for the choices that your husband made? Whether she initiated the affair or not doesn't matter - HE made the choice to act knowing that the consequences of having an affair could be devastating to all parties involved. Confronting the other woman will serve no purpose other than to divert the responsibility away from the person who SHOULD be held accountable: the husband.
If it were me, I would consult a divorce attorney - "it's over" isn't worth a hill of beans if he's still involved with her and, the idea that he's taking your daughter along as a chaperone is absurd, foolish, and thoroughly inappropriate: he is involving a CHILD in his ADULT issues and leveling the responsibility for HIS actions upon this innocent and impressionable child - oh, HELL no! I would also submit to an HIV/AIDS test, as well as be tested for other STD's. For me, life is entirely too short to remain with someone who doesn't express responsibility and integrity. A healthy relationship is not based upon drama/trauma, deception, subterfuge, and excuses.
The one snag that might prove to be a very ugly situation would be custody/visitation of your daughter. The Court (depending upon your State) may hold issue with the fact that you surrendered your second child. Then, again, in some States, the Court might view the surrender as a responsible and rational decision - this is where a consultation with a divorce attorney would be priceless.
Just my feelings. Best wishes to you in your journey.