Problem with my son

I was in a marriage from the age of 20-38 with a narcissit. My family of origin (who we lived next door to) is also primarily narcissistic and there are a lot of them. I come from a family of 8 children. I have 2 children, both before I was 25. I had a very hard life with this man who I finally broke all ties with. I have also broken off with most of my family. My problem is my son.
I was in a car accident 5 years ago and my daughter was very badly injured and I had to take care of her, physically for a while and emotionally for a longer period. She is now doing really well and is in college. However it's been very hard on me, I am underemployed and still suffer Depression and anxiety (I do alot of the protocols on curezone and believe in the natural approach).
My son still blames me for the past and thinks I wasn't a good mother. I have tried to explain to him how I was a victim of his father even though I was an adult and I am responsible for my own actions, that is still true. I have said I believe you and your sister were his victims also, etc. I have tried to apologize for the past but he still seems to hate me. At the time of the accident when he came to the hospital he would not even associate with me and instead hung out with my sister. When my daughter was in the rehab facility and I was staying close by her and visiting her every day for 12+ hours, I begged him one time on the phone to come and stay with me.(A kind woman was letting me live at her house, she had plenty of room and was hardly there) He refused and said I was being selfish in the way I asked.He said I'm not going to stay with you. I am still underemployed at the moment but I am feeling better about things as my daughter is finally out on her own and doing good so I can concentrate on myself. My son just had a big fight with me a couple of weeks ago and brought up how I never was supportive of him, lots of things which I don't think are really true. For instance, he was in college after the accident and I was giving him money (from a settlement) for tuition and rent. Then one semester he didn't think he could do it anymore and wanted to drop out because of the pressure. He called on the phone and without me telling him what to do I said if you drop out you will get relief from your pressure for about one day but you will be without a degree. If you stay in school you will have your degree. at the end of the call he decided to move back home us. Then a couple days later he called all mad at me and said that he was going to stay in school and how come I was going to let him drop out. Why hadn't I forbidden it or something. So when we where talking the last time he mentioned this incident and said I wasn't supportive of him during this time. I am so confused. He pretty much admitted that he hates me. I tried to tell him to read books on the subject so he can understand at least what happened to me and he refuses. I don't know what to do. It's very depressing for me having him out there hating me, but I know also, what happened to me and that I am a good person. Does anyone, have any advice? Tweet