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Re: advice from older women
Are you finished with your education? Are you working? Are your finances in good shape? Do you have any interests outside of the home and marriage? Involved in any intimate (NOT sexually intimate) relationships outside of the marriage? Where is your family in all of this? Were you communicating (talking, listening, etc.) before the baby was born?
Often, the rabid, passionate sex life that existed prior to the birth of a child will evaporate. People are tired, they don't get enough rest, there are new demands on their attention, etc.
Have you suggested marital counseling? A complete lack of communication doesn't keep things on an even keel, by any stretch of the imagination. By remaining silent and not talking and listening, we tend to sink into denial and start pretending that everything's just wonderful and that is not healthy. What do you mean when you say, "things are going smoothly now because i got so tired of arguing with him that i just dont care what he does anymore?"
You say, "i was going to leave him many times but stayed with him because of our child." Precisely, WHY were you wanting to end the relationship?
I realize that a lot of these questions seem very personal, and you are not required to answer ANY of them. However, the answers could help shed a brighter light on what's ailing your relationship.
Best wishes to you.