You are not overreacting, "shallow" is a nice polite word that doesn't really express the seriousness of it. He is extremely judgemental of people and reduces them to LOOKS. Once he gets you to commit to being his servant, he will no longer have a need to treat you right. This is his basic attitude towards people (he is a 'predator' and wants to 'get something out of you', a user), NO REAL RESPECT for people, their property, or anything that is good (no respect for absolutes). There is a possibility that he will someday improve his life, but he will never be able to be a good father or husband. He demands perfection (of course he will CONDESCENDINGLY "forgive" the "PEONS"). He is a control freak, contrary, naysayer, egotitistical, self-righteous, hypocritical, schemer, manipulator and heartless.