i recently tried to approach the woman I believed gave this to me. I was seeing this girl that once (three years ago) told me she had HSV1 downtown. This time when I was seeing her I asked her what the deal with that was. She told me it was just a scare before. She had a boyfriend for two years and no problems. Well we kind of mess around that night but nothing more than oral on her. Two week to the day later I have a relatively small blister but extreme pain and swollen lymph, etc. She called me the morning of my outbreak asking me if I wear chapstick because she's had a problem since the night i performed oral on her. Irritation for two weeks (take note). I didn't know too much about the virus at the time and didn't say anything really. I hadn't had sex for four months before the encounter with her. After researching it more I suspect she had an outbreak that night and when I went to the bathroom and touched myself after touching her I transfered the virus to my genitals.
I called her three months later(i hadn't really been hanging out with anyone due to a mild Depression I guess) and very calmly in a non accusatory manner said "After really researching this virus I think I may have gotten it from you" Well, the conversation went downhill from there. I explained to her that whether I have this conversation with her or not is not going to magically cure me of herpes. I was just thinking that she would want to try some of the therapies I was trying. And maybe give me an apology. She's telling me when she thought she had herpes was a long time ago and she's a completely different person now. She said the out break she had was on her inner thigh. I tried to explain that statement to her to no avail. I asked her how she could be so specific about the strain of virus? She said she didn't remember if tests were done.
So anyway, a few days later she calls and very bitchy like, and tells me she went to see her doctor and he had never done any tests before. She didn't know where she got HSV1 from. She can't get any tests done wright now because her newly acquired insurance doesn't cover it yet. The doctor says she has a yeast infection and gave her some cream. I try to tell her what I felt may be wrong with that wrong with that diagnoses and she says "Your not a doctor!" I laugh at her foolish statement and told her I had some books she could look at if she wants, they often misdiagnose, etc. She said she's satisfied! She doesn't have it!
So there's the downfall of going down the blame game road.
Now I feel she's just a spasmodic, irrational, nut case, bitch. She told me she spent some time in a mental hospital before but she was all better now. More denial.