Either God is everything or God is nothing. You are on the God is nothing side.
I had the same ideas -- God won't interfere with what we want to do -- with our will -- before I had a different experience with God. God can direct our thinking and actions if we offer our will to God through prayer and meditation. It happens for many all the time.
First you have to have desire, and I think that is about the extent of what Master-Cleanse can do for her husband. Want him to want and let God take care of the rest.
Don't give up before the miracle takes place, as they say!