Hey! Just remember that there isn't any "normal" family out there! <grin> Everything will come out just fine, and you both will be successful because you are TALKING about these issues!!! Recognizing that a problem exists is more than half the battle. And, getting over familial dysfunction is going to be a long road, but it will certainly happen - of course, some issues will leave emotional scar tissue, but that's part of life and living.
Best of luck to you and hurrah for your courage! Keep posting your progress!