Re: Listen.

You know, I think that both people in a marriage have responsibilities to maintain themselves. I think that if your husband married you and you were 70 lbs lighter, he obviously finds that size women appealing. You can make all the excuses you want about stress, metabolism, whatever but 70 lbs doesn't just jump on your body. I had to take steroids after a medical illnes and gained 38 lbs. As soon as I was recovered, I got on Weight Watchers and lost the weight. I looked like a different person that much heavier. My husband couldn't have been attracted to me, I was disgusted with me, how could he find me sexy if I didn't find myself sexy? Your husband needs to deal with his exhaustion...change work shifts or do something else to handle that problem. You need to get healthy and lose a ton of weight. You will feel better about yourself and then you will contribute more to a sexual relationship. It all ties in together. I mean, how sexy do you feel that heavy? Now, the story would be different if you were fat when you married him and he liked the BBW type but it sounds like you were a normal size when you married so, like it or not, the fat has got to be an issue and it is your responsibility to fix that problem. You can do it. Go to Weight Watchers, join a gym, go and walk 45 minutes a day. Do something, he will be impressed that you are dealing with the issue. Tweet