Re: My husband doesn't want me sexually.

Just a few thoughts...does he have a passion in his life? Something that he REALLY enjoys, outside of his relationship with you? Anything...hunting, fishing, golf...building birdhouses...gardening? And do you have a passion besides your love for husband and child?

I have found that often in this world people are expected to "complete" another's existence....that we expect another to validate ourselves. What do YOU like to do? What does he like to do? It's obvious to me that he is doing the "right" thing...working a later shift in order to bring home more $...but that leaves him tired...and it sounds as though he really doesn't have any love for LIFE at this point.

I have found that sexual expression is tied with one's SELF perception/expression...as WELL as an expression of love for the other. If he doesn't love himself, his life, how can he sincerely express love for you?

A lot of people, especially when children come into the picture, get bogged down in the responsibility of life and forget how to ENJOY the marvelous gift that this life is. Self sacrifice is very "noble"...but...does lead to disatisfaction, and, unless addressed, possibly resentment and...?

So, my advice would be to find the things that reignite that passion for LIFE! Your husband's, AND yours! As individuals, not as part of the family unit. Don't expect him to complete you... Find your passion and encourage him to find his!

Also, find something to work towards, AS a family...something FUN...go on nature hikes together...build something, make something...

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