Your post brought tears to my eyes, but of a very different kind. Thank you so much for your kind and compassionate note. I appreciate you taking the time when your life is so busy and hectic. I know that breaking apart your mother-in-laws home is difficult, but, trust me, she will be so much better off in good care facility. And, for you and your husband, you can continue to love and care for her as a beloved family member, not a burden that will become more and more impossible to bear. Some people tried (and succeeded) to make me feel guilty when I had to put my Grandmother in a nursing home when her mental state made it impossible to care for her at home, but I know now, that I did the only thing I could do. I was with her almost everyday as her granddaughter, not her overworked, stressed out nurse. I pray God will give you and your family the rest, comfort and peace of mind you need.