I'm sure to generate a plethora of "loving advice" from this, but...
My mother did the same. I had a weird lunch w/her a while back where she introduced me to two friends as "my daughter, who is still having a hard time". During the course of this meeting, I was told that I "did not have to settle for minimum wage" and that "a nice man would 'overlook' my flaws".
Somebody get the net.
On the way home, I pulled my business card and that of my secretary and flashed a truck driver just to double-check (kidding...).
It's disorienting to confront such an inaccurate point of view.
My standard response now when relatives, friends of family, etc. sympathize w/my "plight" is to say, "but I'd like to keep her out of the home as long as possible...despite what the doctors say...".