It has recently come to my attention that my mother has been slandering my name and defaming my character behind my back for decades. As a kid I suspected this based on reactions from relatives and friends of the family. I wish I had the guidance and confidence as a kid to stand up for myself. She made a career out of targeting my grandmother and others in my extended family and slandering their names. I always suspected that she was doing the same thing to me behind my back. Turns out I was right, and I have just scratched the surface of the bad image she has given people of me over the years.
My mother also has much more contact with old friends of the family and extended family than I do, so I am spinning my head thinking of the vile crap she has told others just to get attention at my expense.
I started to bring the subject up but she blatantly lied about things that she knows that she did - these things are not questionable or a matter of opinion. And my father supports her no matter what she does.
Makes me want to write a letter to her and send copies to everyone, to set the record straight. Problem is I am in my thirties and doing this could actually make me look like the bastard my mother claimed me to be, and could ironically give her the ultimate victim role to get a lot more attention and drama that she craves. Plus she would have to go into super-slander mode to cover up her blatant lies. I wouldn't doubt that she would tell everyone I am paranoid or crazy. She did call me paranoid and a loser when I caught her in her own lies and she panicked.
What should I do? Be a good little kid and do nothing and let her continue to get away with these vile acts, or stand up for myself like I should have done decades ago and try to reclaim some self-respect?