(Happy dance at my desk at work: tap tap tap, tap tap tap.)
Sounds like you handled it in a class-act ladylike way all round: letting the lad free to work out his destiny on the open road (well, or in the neighborhood) and releasing that stressful situation with your gal friend. And he deserves credit too, for giving himself some time to work through the lessons from his last relationship.
Only lil sentence that I kinda looked at funny was:
"I still want to help both of them where I am needed."
Well thanks to your kind heart, sounds like they don't need you at the moment.
Would you really like to be a counselor? Could be a very good idea. They're not allowed to counsel their friends though, that's the one problem.
You know, a guy once broke up with me, saying he couldn't feel excited about a girl who was too nice. I was just heartbroken. Then because he had health problems I still went right on bringing him meals and giving him massages until a friend advised that I cut that out and take up some other hobby.
But back to you. Wow, you had a meaningful conversation, you faced the truth, you let the chips that were falling go on and fall. I hope you are feeling okay about it now.
Sure brightened my day. Thank you for letting me know.
Yay! How are you gonna care for your lovely self on your day off tonight?