on retreat; hey 42781, edited at end...response?

planning, still trying to sleep.
can't tie the computer up.
I appreciated your wisdom/insights/caring and especially your "hug". :-) sometimes something small like that means the most--smile.
Only "hook" that got me--using "always" (i'm touchy about that word...my hubby says it often "you always" and "you never" which of course is silly and inaccurate and simply not true. You used it (I won't go back to quote, but you'll get the point) I was molested, I don't molest. Birthed and first 4 years raised by an alcholic mother--not one. Some people are "chainbreakers". I'm one. My husband could choose to be one, or do exactly what you suggest. His choice--if he could "see" it or hear it.

Consdier reading your advice to me back to yourself. How does it apply to your situation with your wife? Why do YOU stay?

Curious.
I'm staying. for now. But the rules of the game are going to change.

Had a 'brief" chat with my doc--he nailed it.(the feeling like I wasnted to run into a tree thing) My husband had called my doc and he caught me in his office going to chi gong class.... turns out my counselor scared him (spouse)into calling because he told him what I'd shared. Anyhow Dr. B. said "You wanted to hit your husband, you were so angry. You couldn't. So you considered driving into a tree to hurt him. But you figured out that would be stupid. Your okay. Oh, you husband sounded the most concerned I've ever heard him. But he is so CONCRETE. " He had a patient waiting, and I got anxious, so that ended t hat. Oh yea, he gave me a quick hug, and almost broke me into tears.
Now i have to convince my counselor I don't have to see a shrink--I made him nervous. He IS good....but stressed by personal stuff I think...his father is not well and he helps alot of people--seldom turns anyone down. I hope I can reassure him.
opps, too long,
later
pj

So, the stuff has hit the fan, and we are still surviving. But I was still wondering...why do YOU stay? I think I've committed to staying for a year, or maybe I agreed to two....can't quit remember. deep sigh....HOW are YOU?
(I think we have one thing in common; I feel best when I am helping others, or feel like I am...but sometimes Iwonder if it is my way of distracting myself. I guess there are worse. smile.

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