Re: new relationship advice
Hi Abalina,
I have broken up with my boyfriend for a year now. I am in no way, shape or form ready to start a new relationship. I have not healed enough to start any relationship with anyone. This man, was he with his ex a long time. If so, it will take him time to get over her and also he needs a breather from his breakup and maybe to take time to find out what he wants in life. And space, is what he needs. Before I met my present ex/bf, I was divorced for a year. I met this man, and I liked him, but I told him I was not interested in dating or getting serious. I told him I need my SPACE. We talked on the phone, saw each other in clubs, danced with each other but that was it. He knew where I stood and respected my wishes. He dated but after awhile he hung in hoping that I would come around and he knew I would, but it took time. Sorry to say but I didn't get serious with him for at least 7 months. We talked to each other alot. He was a great listener and communicator. We talked for hours on the phone. He is 13 years older than I am. He knew what kind of a girl I was and that is why he hung in and waited. I was 40 at the time with 2 children and he knew things had to be different with me. My suggestion is go along your way, do things u like to do, have him call u in his time. Call him once in awhile to see how he is doing. Keep yourself busy. Maybe when he sees your not bothering with him much, he will do the chasing, but it has to be done in his time. Good luck.