Re: Help!
4 choices:
1. Do nothing. Bad idea.
2. Cheat on your wife and you (and your new girl) risk unfair settlements in divorce court, tarnished social/business image, and you get to be the bad guy in your kids eyes (and your wife gets to be the victim). Bad idea.
3. Wait until the kids are grown, then divorce. I assume AT LEAST 5 years, PLUS divorce time/settlement = years and years of wasted life, time away from your new girl. Bad idea.
4. Divorce now. If you KNOW your marriage is over, you owe it to everybody (especially yourself) to end it. Are you SURE it is over? If "yes", delaying will only waste your time, and life is too short. Good idea!
Divorce is not bad for your kids - the example your wife is setting for them is. They will get over it, and I don't believe divorce is the evil hardship on kids like it is portrayed by so many. Blind faith is a farce, whether it is in marriage, religion, or a President - it is a gamble - a crapshoot at best, Russian Roulette at worst.
Just to add: Are you considering the divorce to be with your new girl, or to get away from your wife? There's a big difference, and is important to differentiate. Nothing is a sure thing, so if the new girl doesn't work out, will you still be glad you got the divorce?
Oh, and do your wife a favor and sell the tv...
Just my .02