After reading your post, I couldn't help myself but to respond.
I too, have been down that road. There is probably nothing I can say to you to change your feelings about jealousy.
But I can tell you that it goes away when you concentrate on yourself.
Which I admit is most difficult when you are a Mom.
Keeping yourself busy with the fun things you like to do. Then imagine when you get home from doing them, someone is questioning your every move, where did you go? why did it take that long? who did you see?