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Re: jealousy just means that you have low self-esteem.
 
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Re: jealousy just means that you have low self-esteem.


Hi 28427, to improve your self esteem, first don't let you manipulated and do the things you do for yourself, not for the other, be independant.
You mentionned that you are dependant on him, so this kind of relationship is not secure, NEVER, and it is a warning for you to know that it is not what you want, you are stressed because you expect something more from a relationship, and as you can't get it, you are blaming yourself for not beeing able of have it.

If you could only step back and look at the situation with no feelings and emotions, you would take control of the situation, and ask yourself, is it what I want ? what do I get from this situation ? is it good or bad to me ? what if it was someone else's , would I find it good, or would I find it not good ? what would I advise if my friend were in this situation ? so, apply to yourself these advices.

A relationship is based on give and take.
You say that he asked you after only one month, I would think it is too fast and precipitated, it seems more based on emotions and fantasies. A stong bond is built after a few month, and is the result of the happiness shared between the two persons.
You say it is becoming overwhelming, you really don't sound happy at all.
You suggested a break, again he doesn't want to let you control anything, he has to control you, and he denies you the right to feel comfortable and consider that your need to see a therapist about your jealousy. He doesn't seem to find he has anything to do in it.

So what would you advise to someone else, if she were in this situation and you really would want to help her feel good ?

I would say, take the break that YOU need and YOU want, whatever it takes.


 

 
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