Re: jealousy just means that you have low self-esteem.
Hi Paulista,
About the problem of jealousy, I think that there is not much to do when a relatinship doesn't provide you what you expect from it, then it comes naturally. You explain very well that it has to do with the person you are with, so it is not you who is not able to be peacful,but the guy who is not respectful of you.
What esle can you do, are you going to suffer all your life with him, because he takes you for granted and think it normal to see you suffer ? I am sure he feels VERY important that you are depending on him this way, he needs to think that, for his EGO.
I know exactly what you are talking about, I had this sort of bad experience too, the more you need the less you have, and that's unfair. that's a game in a way, the one who has the control plays with the feelings of the other, this is a wicked game with always one loser, but at the end both are losers, for it is not what love is about.
It is normal you do not feel secure, as he does all he can to make you feel insecure, so what to do from this point ? you won't change the things ever, he will always take control on your feelings, unless you really move on and get detached from him, you have to know exactly how it works, but then it works fine.
Only I think this sort of person is not worth being with and doesn't deserve the love they get, I think you need and deserve much better than that. And as you are already conscious of it, then you will make it happen someday, so be good to yourself first and move on.
Gala