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Re: Do most people cheat?
 
jwhite Views: 1,379
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Re: Do most people cheat?


Gala, thank you for your insight. I have had some unhappy moments, but we are working through what may be a long struggle. If there is a perfect relationship in this world, I would like to study it and write a book. I know it would be a best seller and I wouldn't have to work another day in my life.
My partner told me on our first date that I was perfect for her. I stopped her and told her not to put me on a pedestal because the fall would be to much for us to handle. I didn't know at that time that I would fail her by cheating with my ex-wife. Before anyone begins making judgements consider asking for the whole story. Although I do take responsibility for my actions and have forgiven myself for the mistakes I've made, there are two sides to every coin. And that is why I asked for others opinion before. My girlfriend confided in a co-worker about a year ago. The co-worker is older then her and simply told her, "if what you are telling me is true, then let the past go, because what you have in a man today is rare".
Now I know she has lied to me at times, but there are many more times that her honesty is just what I need. Sometimes it hurts but I'd rather be hurt now and make choices based on the truth, then to find out later and spend weeks or months trying to recover from what shouldn't have been.
I am not in the business of fixing people, and it would be wonderful if that perfect person walked into my life. You know, the woman who's never been raped, who's father stood up for her when she needed him. The one that didn't get pregnant at 17 and never got to enjoy her childhood.
When this woman I love comes to me with all honesty written on her face and tells me she wants to better herself. She shows me by putting herself through college and starting a new career. She continues to raise three children that are her reason for living. And she makes time for me everyday. I have a hard time listening to what most people would do and walking away. I know it's not going to be a smooth road to follow, but I believe in her and she believes in me. Yes, I have cheated! But now she has too. Why? We don't know just yet. That's something we are dealing with right now. She didn't do it to hurt me, other wise she would have thrown it in my face months ago. She wants to understand and so do I. We are trying to build a future with broken hearts and that's not easy. We can't change the past but we can change the future. Thanks again for listening ___jw
 

 
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