Wow i hit it right on the button...you ladies gotta figure out that asking to be "just friends" when the guy still likes you is cruel and unreasonable. Saying that he would talk to you in a year makes perfect sense...it's about enough time to completly get over you.
So basicly what I'm saying is being friends is easier for you and a HELL of alot harder for him.
Well enough of my rambling, losing friends is hard and I consider it normal that you hurt about it, but all I can say is if you really respect him GIVE HIM THE TIME HE WANTS, because I definitely would.