I am having trouble determining whether to stay in a relationship of almost 3 years. In the last few months my fiancee has become verbally abusive and lacking in responsibility. He has problems from his childhood that have come about lately along with surgery that made him unable to do his job and blames all of his actions towards me on those things. Everything he does is my fault when we argue. He goes to work for a while and then just stops for sometimes weeks at a time. I of course have a problem with that because we just bought a house and i go to work every day even if i sit there and cry all day. He has made me an emotional wreck to say the least. We have been going to counseling together and he is fine if we go once a week but if we cant get in for a while he reverts back to the side i dont like and cant handle. He says he loves me but how can someone love someone and then in turn go through spurts where they do nothing but the things that will make the other person want to leave? I ask very little in this relationship i want him to maintain a job and be responsible and effectionate all of these things he can do 10 full but now only on occasion. He has been lying to me about everything in this time why he doesnt go to work how much money he spent things like this. What do i do? is it worth it to stay? The only answer i ever get from him is I DONT KNOW I love him more than i have ever loved anyone but i spent 13 years married to someone who abused me and i cant take it anymore.