hey taken, you're right about never feeling secure again. one big frustration i have is that i never got a true explanation or a kind word during the 3 minute call that included her break up annoucement. at least J. Lo gave Ben some kind of fairwell meeting. i feel so estranged to her. at that miserable party she gave me ZERO attentiveness. like we never were in the first place. All those warm moments together are clearly forgotten on her part. i imagine you must relate. you must feel your owed and explanation as i feel i should have gotten........ glad these post are anounymous i feel like such a needy dolt. that said; the pain has taken on a new dimension now because as of yesterday i know now that she'll never be mine again. i cant imagine even having, let alone finding another relationship. the magnitude of the anguish potential is staggering. thanks for responding to my posts.