Re: unsure about marriage because of another girl
Your doubts are well founded. Can you seriously comprehend spending the next 50 years with someone that you are not emotionally compatible with?
I think you need time to sort this out. The last thing you want to do is make a hasty decision then regret it for years to come.
I hate to say it but perhaps your STBW suited you fine a few years ago, but lets face it when you are in your early twenties, a lot of growing and maturing takes place. Personalities change, as you leave those crazy insecure teen years. Some stay insecure and emotionaly tense, others mellow and become quite relaxed....
Take some serious time to figure out your own personality and who you truly feel you would be compatible with. It may not be "Mary" but someone else with the same personality. Surface attraction can fade quite quickly, but when you have a deep emotional attraction it can be beautiful and last a lifetime.