Let's sum this up here...you've got a boyfriend who lies to you and an ex who you can't stomach? Is that the jist of it? This isn't a game of Texas Hold'em here where you can just play it safe until the right card is dealt...THEY BOTH ARE LOSER CARDS! Fold! Are you that insecure that you can't dump both and find a better hand (a little card playing lingo here)? You are a tremendous woman who offers plenty to an equally great guy. Quit with the "safe play" and go out into this world and find him. Never settle. That's what hen-pecked women do. You shouldn't even entertain the idea of holding onto these two. Never call an ex for anything, by the way, because that violates one of my most important dating rules: EX's are EXs for a reason. Listen close, then I've got to get going...boyfriends who lie now will lie later. You don't want to accept a ring from a liar, pure and simple. Exs who you dumped AND you can't stomach should be forever forgotten. Move on and don't look back...