Your feelings are being ignored BIGTIME to say the least. Your wife is playing you like a piano. You are the man in the house, you have a duty to put your foot down, and, if in the future, you have reason to become verbally abusive, your wife has herself to blame for that. There is still such a thing as "Domestic Abuse". If you took your wife to a women's shelter and let her get to know some battered wives, she would learn to appreciate you much more, not that she doesn't now, she must be ecstatic that you are accomodating her to let her hug and kiss the other guy. I don't mean any offense but,...Are you crazy? You know very well that your wife shouldn't be doing this to you, remind her of her marriage vows.