Re: Need help

Your resentment is perfectly understandable. Since it is your family that is at stake here, it is very important for your "future" peace of mind, conscience and emotional makeup, that you handle this as best you can, otherwise, growing up realizing that you distanced yourself from your family will make you a different kind of a person that you don't want to be. Our families are our most genuine heritage and if we learn to simply "be dissatisfied" with where we come from, we end up not being too happy with ourselves (kinda like "cursing the ground we walk on", low self-esteem, self-hatred). I couldn't imagine that there is a sane person on this earth that wouldn't subconsciously feel guilty for neglecting their parental duty. She is a failure when it comes to protecting her own flesh and blood, but you are not just kin, either, you actually came out of her body. In effect, she is a traitor to her own body (subconsciously). She shows off to you because she looks up to you and she feels that she is inferior to you (remorse, but no apology). If you get her to "fess up" to what she has done, she will, most likely, STOP. Your mother doesn't actually hate you, she looks up to you and hates herself for what she has done. She needs your help and you are the only one on earth who can forgive her, IF she can finally "face" her demons. She will, with your help. And you will be a hero for the rest of your life. Tweet