Re: Caller and email blocking an ex-girlfriend after 9 years of on again/off-again...

Forgiveness is good, but if the person that is asking for forgiveness from you does not admit that the reason they need forgiveness from you is that they HURT you and are sincerely sorry that they did, then the reason they will be seeking your forgiveness is only that they want to clear THEIR conscience so that they can continue to think well of themselves. In that case, if you forgive them, then you are subconsciously admitting to yourself that you deserve to be treated like that and played, manipulated and used however that person chooses. That is not easily recognized, but when you consider that there has been a NINE year relationship AND that it has been on and off, you start to realize what you have come to accept as normal. You are still believing that you should "be used" and forgive her for walking all over you (Wrong me once, shame on you,...wrong me twice, shame on me). That means that if you forgive someone too carelessly the first time they do something, they are likey to do it a second time, and then, you are an accomplice (but still not the culprit). Learn this principle well, you are convinced that you should ACCEPT all of these heartaches and headaches. You are not the culprit, you have only unkowingly allowed yourself to be walked all over for NINE years. After nine years, there should not be GAMES at all. Tweet