Why would you assume buttons is not? If we made a mistake, then it is because she did not DEFINITELY say otherwise, we just assumed, like most people on earth that buttons was female because of a BOYFRIEND. Why are you getting defensive,...do YOU have a problem of "attacking people"? Then maybe you should be brave and admit it to yourself (it is YOUR problem, don't make it ours), and stop trying to get on everybody's case. Why do you need to do that?,...is your self-esteem that low?