Re: Why me?

I understand exactly what is happening, I've been dealing with a severely dysfunctional family all my life, and because of that, I've also been dealing "other" anal retentive people, ALSO. I don't mean to be excessively offensive to your family, but I realize what they are doing to you and cannot speak kindly of that. You are undoubtedly, a very kind and gentle person and your mother (instead of appreciating that) is taking out her frustrations on you. It is not because she can't feel love for you, she does love you, but how would you feel if you were a mother whose son was always LEGAL TROUBLE. Your mother is FLIPPING OUT every single day and you are the target for her insanity and all her frustrations because you are a "safe" target. You are being SUBCONSCIOUSLY conditioned at home to be a "doormat" (without anybody's intention to actually do so), and when you go into work, you, unknowingly, put up with the same mistreatment (they SEE you coming). Talk to your mother, not KINDLY (because people mistake kindness for WEAKNESS,...actually they don't really MISTAKE it, they refuse to respect it because they rather use it for their ego), but don't lash out at her with hate or rebellion either, she won't "understand" if you do that, she'll be hearing only an ATTACK and she'll get defensive. She must be "able" to HEAR and understand what she's doing to YOU. As for the people at work, you are going to have to become SOMEONE TO DEAL WITH and not be so nice ALL of the time. You want to be a little more diplomatic and wise with some people in getting them off your case, STUPID people don't understand how to back off quietly like a civilized person. These are vicious attacks that you are enduring, and it starts where it definitely shouldn't,...AT HOME. Put a stop to it. Talk to God, He will tell you the same thing, because, if you let it continue, you will ruin (unintentionally) what could be A HAPPY HOME. When you get older, you will resent your mother and she will be used to treating you like a doormat instead of loving you properly, and she won't know anymore how to genuinely love her family, and she will feel guilty and think she is a failure and doesn't deserve things to go right (in other words, the family will be a genuine MESS). You have got to do this for YOURSELF first, but, also do it for your family, and maybe even that LEGAL TROUBLE brother will straighten out (YOU NEVER KNOW). But NEVER blame yourself if your family insists on continuing to be a mess, you are the child, it is the PARENT who has the responsibility of a HAPPY HOME. YOU are a VICTIM and NOT the CAUSE. Tweet