This is your life, noone else's. Stand up for yourself, and do whatever is right for you. Let go of the old conditioning where you live in fear of judgement. This is not healthy. Be honest with yourself and with those around you. It's time to stand up for who you are. If someone can't handle your honesty, that is their problem and their baggage. Let them deal with theri own dogma. Get on with YOUR life, not the life you think you need to live to pacify other's beliefs.
I'm not gay but I understand that love is the most important aspect of our experience on earth. Don't supress your natural urge to love.