I read a book that helped me a lot. It is a large book that I did not read cover to cover, but the parts I chose to read over time helped me immensely. The book is called "The Art of Sexual Magic." I cannot recall the author as it has been long since I passed it on. The book aims at helping couples reach sexual ecstacy (that means both of you.) If that does not work, the same author wrote a book called "The Art of Sexual Ecstacy." This would be easier to practice alone. Be patient with the ones you love. They too love you.