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Re: Frustrated newlywed
Look, you've been hurt! You have every right in the world to expect an apology, no one has the right to tell you that you shouldn't seek or hope for an apology, you are a human being and deserve an apology...as respect, and as a rule of thumb, it's always a good idea to have your wife respect you. You have endured a lot of heartaches and headaches. I'm not saying that you should ask her to apologize or that she should be made to feel guilty, but there's nothing wrong with explaining to her that what you endured, you endured for her. Give her the opportunity to feel self-conscious and to realize that you really have sacrificed for her. Let her know what she put you through and allow her to apologize, don't suggest an apology, she must be allowed to apologize of her own free will. You have endured SELF-SACRIFICE for the sake OF A LOVED ONE, you were the victim, AND you are the culprit. Subconsciously, you know very well who is responsible for making you a victim...YOURSELF, you made a conscious decision to endure. YES, you endured for her, but you are not just the victim, subconsiously, you know that you are also the criminal and you can't forgive yourself. That is why you are so confused, depressed and give up. You've committed emotional suicide. Keep it a secret,don't let on about that or she will start to feel guilty. That would not just be mean, that would destroy everything you've already done for her and yourself. Just explain to her what you have been through and let her feel self conscious enough to apologize and thank you. Then also explain that it is important that she confides in you, for her own sake, but also for the relationship. Believe me, you need this healing as much, if not more, than she does.
God Bless You