Get ready for more "stressful" dates from American guys. I don't know about dating in South America, but here in the USA guys heap the stress of the day on themselves in huge amounts. Guys have been programmed since day one that they have to perform, they have to "make the date happen" or they, themselves, are losers. Movies, TV, the American fabric have molded men in their dating years that they have to give their date the time of their life on each and every date...or they are failures. Sad, isn't it? The art of being spontaneous and enjoying simple pleasures is long gone. What you need to do is let your dates fail. That is, play the game and allow your guy to not have to plan everything, not have to dictate the path of the date, not have the entire load of the date upon his shoulders. Casual dates rule! The quicker you understand how American guys really are, the better you can enjoy their company and "help" them enjoy it, too.