well, my husband had the most f*&%ed up childhood and he turned out to be the absolute best father. what he says is that you have to look at how your childhood went and decide if that is what you want for your kids, if it isn't then you have to make the conscious decision to make it better. he's done that, and he's wonderful. unless your husband is showing signs of strange or odd behavior or you catch him looking at little kids or something weird i guess i wouldn't put too much worry into it. i've had an ex that was a total pedophile and though he hid it well, he didn't hide it well enough... i guess your husband could be hiding it well, but if you're close i would think that you'd pick up some kind of clue, no matter how insignificant. that's just me though. i also dont think that she could get your kids. accusations are one thing, proof is another. i wouldn't allow her anywhere near your kids though, never. that's just asking for trouble.