This here is something that I just wrote to post on the reflections page of my website and thought that I would share it here....
I have done a lot of thinking lately and I have realized that for me healing doesn't mean getting over the abuse.
For me it is more about finding myself, getting to know the real me and no longer hiding behind a mask. It's about learning how to accept the way that I feel and understanding why I feel the way that I do and knowing that it is okay for me to feel this way.
I have come to realize that the abuse can only hurt me for as long as I allow it to. I have that choice. I can and will decide not to let the abuse or my abusers to inhibit my future.