Yes, they do. My husband and I have been married 22 years. I still enjoy sex, very much. But, I don't want it all the time. I heard this quote: "Men need a place, women need a reason." That's true. Men get turned on by sight and smell. I get turned on by: How am I treated? Did he show me that he loved me by other means than sex? It's all in caring, sharing, and do I feel secure. That's the way I am anyway.
I have NEVER been able to have an orgasm with only intercourse. I have to have some sort of battery/electric powered tool to help. I have NEVER faked an orgasm. What's the point? I couldn't fake one anyway! LOL! 9 times out of 10 my husband knows if I came or not.
Sex, is giving of yourself. Both must be willing to give of themselves, open up to intimatcy to experience the awesome of it all. My husband wants to please me so much he's not worried about himself. He's always asking: does this feel good? Do you like this? What position would you like? We may not make love as often as he likes, but when we do, I always have 2 orgasims. When the kids were younger (and we were younger LOL) he'd make sure I would have 3-5 in one night. Whew! He says he's pleased by pleasing me. Pleasing is a turn on. When I please him, I get so turned on by the looks on his face, his moaning and so on.
So, all this takes time and patience with one another. It's hard to open up to one another and say: " I want you to do "this" to me." But, it can be done.