Oops, I'd made the wrong assumption, thinking she was too busy, like, putting up sheet rock or raising gardenias, and that it never occurred to her. I didn't know she was perfectly ok with initiating and about everything else.
I can still see that for women it's a huge step, and my observations say it still works out best when the woman is just ready meaning ready.
And gee, I can sympathize with your side too, the fact that you're thinking this over, and want to take good protective care of your own feelings and energy.
Thank you for being such a good sport about our chiming in here by the way...