I am not complaining about "quality" just "quantity". I was making note that it seems to be wide-spread that men by this age are pooping out while women are feeling sexual again. Yes, I agree to all of the things that keep a relationship in tune and in fact we do all of that and more :)it is just that he doesn't initiate sex like he used to, doesn't 'bug' me for sex like he used to, doesn't make every comment into a sexual inuendo like he used to. Those are the things I miss. Sex is still great, just initiated and 'planned' more by me. This is what I hear from my friends as well. When speaking to my husband about this he insists he is as horny as ever, just that life gets in the way. Kind of like it did when I was raising our kids that are nearly all grown now. Anyway, we must work to keep it up...er...uhm...keep it good! :) :)PS-you are a lovely poster and I always enjoy your remarks.