I am 45 and the thought of leaving my wife JUST because she doens't like to give or receive oral has never crossed my mind. Even with all of the problems "we" have in bed....fantisize..yes.. but never leave her. I have just learned to do without. Yes, it feels good to get it and yes it feels great to give it...but it is not worth loosing 26 years together over. Of course my story is different from yours in the fact that I have never cum while my wife is going down. This is because she can't stand the taste. So she brings me to the edge and stops. And she has never cum with me going down...not because I haven't tried...(see another post). So I have just learned to do without.........