I totally agree - if I don't know what turns me on - how the heck am I suppose to tell my husband what works (which he asks a lot).... but him telling me what works helps out - and I don't think that he just came up with this stuff by sitting there thinking about it - I'm pretty dang sure some action was taking place. If I do not reach the point of cllmax - it's not his fault if I didn't talk to him - it's mine for keeping my mouth shut.